Anonymous asked: I've been thinking a bit lately and let me start by saying that I love jily desperately, but recently I've been thinking: isn't it kind of bad to romanticize "harassment"? Like the idea that "no" means "oh she wants it, I just have to try harder"
It is, yes, unequivocally, one-hundred-percent bad bad bad to romanticize harassment of any kind. Bingo, my dear anon, you hit the nail right on the head; and in doing so, you have stumbled upon an interesting, fan-made misconception of Lily and James’s relationship (of which even I’ve been guilty on a few occasions, so no need to tell me). Allow me to explain:
The only canon interaction of the pre-Jily James and Lily we have is in “Snape’s Worst Memory,” in which James asks Lily out once. One time. That’s it. We can speculate on how often he asks otherwise, but JKR has only given us this instance, and no indication that James spent his time off-page harassing Lily for a date. And considering adolescent James’s loud-mouthed enthusiasm and general lack of decorum, sure, it’s reasonable to assume that he asked Lily out a few times. But he also respected Lily as a person, which is evident in his wariness of her wand, and his anger at “Mudblood” being used against her (the slur alone is bad enough, as he can’t even say it aloud, but using it against Lily also seems to resonate more personally with James, too, and that could actually be an entirely new discussion, let’s move on before I wander woefully off-topic).
JKR never implies that James is the “Oh, she wants it, I just have to try harder” type; that’s something fans assumed and then used in their various headcanons and fanfictions. So, in the end, James’s characterization as the pushy, coercive type says more about readers’ social conditioning than it does James’s actual character.
I will never let myself scroll past a picture of Walt and not reblog it. I feel like I’d be dishonoring him, and he’s just done so much for me that it’s just not right.
Bless this man for enriching my childhood.
People who don’t reblog this
DISHONOR ON YOUR WHOLE FAMILY
DISHONOR ON YOU
DISHONOR ON YOUR COW
DOES FANNY MEAN SOMETHING DIFFERENT IN AMERICA BECAUSE PEOPLE DO NOT “SHAKE THEIR FANNY” HERE OKAY THEY JUST DONT
wait what does fanny mean in england
in america fanny means butt because we don’t have vaginas. the government refuses to acknowledge their existence.
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